When we talk about needs, we have to realize that some people learn very young to shut down their needs and they carry this into marriage. God wants to meet our needs directly through people and through our marriages. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Anytime you want change you have to embrace discipline, that guarantee results. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Our brain makes us different, not just to sense, but also to feel. When your brain malfunctions, it will continue to malfunction until it is healed. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Lust is the desire to benefit self even at the expense of others, Love is the desire to benefit another even at the expense of yourself. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Withholding spiritually is another thing, and as believers, this is painful. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
To the degree, that you work at the relationship, is to the degree. that you are going to have passion, and intimacy. When you stop pursuing each other, you stop meeting each others needs. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
It's not uncommon for a a couple that I work with, where one person is doing 100 percent of the intiation, leaving the person doing the intiation feeling unchased. Everone deserves to be chased. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
When your marriage shows fruit, your spouse feels nurtured and loved. When you withold they feel starved, unwanted and neglected. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Secrets create fear and if a couple can have no secrets, you have no fear! Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Even when we are blindsided by difficulties in our marriage, every step you take towards your spouse is a step of faith. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Spiritual neglect is another form of intimacy anorexia. They can appear to be "Joe Christian" to everyone else but refuse to pray with their spouse. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Withholding True Intimacy in marriage is risky, but is necessary for your spouse to feel truly loved. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Witholding sex can sadly show up in so many different ways and can be demonizing for your sexuality. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
When you are at a crossroads in you marriage, the choice is yours to own your own stuff and begin the healing journey.. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
The pattern if witholding can be damaging to a spouse. Dr. Weiss has teamed up with Kingdom Works to bring to you Stronger Together: A Marriage Blueprint for Intimacy stay tuned for more video sneak peeks of this powerful series.
Intimacy anorexics often live in an object world. The relational world is too dangerous for the intimacy anorexic to reside in for too long. In the object world, you can exchange characteristics like you would order extra features on an automobile. On a particular day, you might not be “the right object” to the intimacy anorexic. You might not be rich enough, helpful enough, or have the right personality or physique. You are simply not “the right object” for the day. Since you are not “the right object” for them at the moment, you can be punished. This entitlement to “the right object” upon demand can trigger an intimacy anorexic pattern of behavior.
Most individuals who are not intimacy anorexic realize how little control they have in their lives. They don’t really believe they control people in their life when they can barely control themselves. They have no faith in the illusion of control, or even controlling the perception others might have of them, that’s just way too much work for most of us.
If you’re not an intimacy anorexic, this one won’t make any sense at all. As humans, we are all flawed. We expect to make mistakes, be ignorant, hurt others, embarrass ourselves, and at times be caught or exposed when it happens. For the intimacy anorexic, trying to live in the “I’m really good” box and being found out to be flawed, can trigger an intimacy anorexic pattern of behavior.
One thing many intimacy anorexics talk about frequently is safety because they have bought into some fantasy that they are not to be hurt or questioned. They really want safety: not most of the time but all of the time. If they feel unsafe, even if they simply make it up that they are not safe, this could ignite an intimacy anorexic pattern of behavior.
Let’s go back to the definition of intimacy anorexia—the active withholding of emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy. If things are going along really well and the intimacy anorexic is feeling close to you and feeling like an intimate, emotional, spiritual, or sexual encounter is about to occur (e.g., the children are with grandma and there’s anticipation of real connection or a sexual rendezvous) this could ignite intimacy anorexic withholding behavior or several behaviors. This withholding or pushing away is intentional to cause pain for the spouse, so they won’t want intimacy or even ask to be close to the intimacy anorexic.
Respect is a core issue for men. Wives are told to respect their husbands, but honestly some men make that difficult. If you don’t keep your word, provide financially, keep up with home projects, pray with her, help around the house, and try to love her the way she wants to be loved, then it will be hard for her to respect you. Ask yourself if your behavior around the house and toward your wife is truly respectable. If the answer is no, you are creating a very difficult environment in which your wife is to respect you. You need respect; but if you are not giving respect by serving well, you are creating a wife who nags and criticizes, and you will feel less respected.
Stop and think about a kind touch your spouse blessed you with and where you were? How did you feel? You can give that feeling to your spouse at will because you possess the power of kindness. This power takes the whole world away and allows you to drink in pure love from your spouse.
Praise and nurturing one another is an essential ingredient for a vibrant ongoing intimate relationship. In the next one hundred days of practicing praise and nurturing you will get skilled and comfortable with the exercise of giving and receiving. For some husbands and wives the giving of praise is difficult. For others it is the receiving or acknowledging praise that is more difficult. Still for others both aspects of giving and receiving praise is difficult.
I want to share with you, the one verse that turned my world upside down and fueled my desire to stay sexually pure over the past two decades. This Scripture promises that if we overcome the duplicity of sexual immorality, God says, “I will.” He didn’t say maybe, or I might, He said “I will.” When God says, "I will," He keeps His Word. Period. When God says He will give you authority over the nations, He will. Notice He did not say authority just in your home, your city, state, or country—but, “over the nations.”