Relational Context

When you look at a woman through a relational lens—seeing her as a whole person rather than a body—you’ll find it much harder to give in to lust. Lust thrives in detachment. It reduces a person to parts. But when you consciously place a woman in a human, relational, or even spiritual context, it shifts your perspective. She is someone’s daughter, someone made in the image of God, someone with a story, dreams, fears, and dignity. That awareness breaks the power of objectification.

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Leaving Your Comfort Zone

Marriage is, in many ways, a continuous act of stepping beyond your comfort zone—for the sake of love, growth, and connection. As a partner, you’re not just sharing a life, you’re choosing to explore another person’s world—a world shaped by different experiences, perspectives, and values. Just as Texas is not the same as Pennsylvania, your spouse's inner world will feel foreign at times, unfamiliar in both beautiful and challenging ways.

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Character Development

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Step One for Intimacy Anorexia - "Had Become"

We admitted we were powerless over our intimacy anorexia—that our lives had become unmanageable.

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Step One For Intimacy Anorexia - "That Our Lives"

We admitted we were powerless over our intimacy anorexia—that our lives had become unmanageable.

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Step One For Intimacy Anorexia - "We Were Powerless"

We admitted we were powerless over our intimacy anorexia—that our lives had become unmanageable.

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Step One For Intimacy Anorexia-"Admitted"

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Step One For Intimacy Anorexics Series - "We"

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Step One For Intimacy Anorexics Series

Intimacy anorexia is the act of withholding emotionally, spiritually, and sexually from your significant other, making them feel alone and disconnected. The pain and even trauma they experience from this are real due to you withholding your heart from them.

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The Need for a Sponsor

Establishing a sponsor relationship can be one of the most powerful tools in recovery. One of the hardest parts of breaking free from addiction is the feeling of isolation—but a sponsor helps you realize that you’re not alone. This relationship provides not only support but also perspective, allowing you to see that there is hope, growth, and a meaningful future ahead in recovery.

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It Takes Commitment

When a man makes a sincere commitment to live a clean sexual life, that decision becomes a powerful catalyst. It often begins to draw in the very tools, people, and support systems needed to sustain purity—things like accountability software, trusted accountability partners, recovery groups, and life-giving resources. This is not coincidence. That inner commitment may be the very reason God starts aligning your path with the help you need.

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Containing the Fire

Fire is one of the best analogies for understanding male sexuality—especially when it involves unchecked lust, fantasy, pornography, masturbation, or other non-relational sexual behaviors outside the marriage.

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Am I Addicted?

How do you know if you’re addicted to porn? Honestly—you already know. I knew. I couldn’t stop, even after a deep spiritual awakening. I looked forward to it. It shaped how I spent my time. If you’re addicted, you feel that rush just thinking about getting to your phone or computer, finding that private space, and disappearing for hours. You stay up too late, scroll too long, and search for more—something new, different—chasing a fantasy that somehow promises to soothe your soul. But it doesn’t. You’ve probably spent hundreds of hours feeling ashamed, embarrassed, disappointed in yourself, wondering why you can’t just grow up. You feel stuck—like you're emotionally immature, not fully present in your own life. Addiction does that. It robs you of emotional, financial, relational, and even sexual maturity. If you're in a relationship or marriage and can’t connect without fantasy—or you can’t climax unless you're in a mental porn loop—that’s a major sign…

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Sexual Recovery for Anorexics

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Lusting is Prohibited

Lust is not optional for us—it’s prohibited. Plain and simple. By decree of the King—Jesus Christ—you and I are not permitted to entertain it. This isn’t a gray area. Both the letter of the Law and the Spirit behind it make this clear. Jesus didn’t lower the bar; He raised it. In Matthew 5:28, He tells us that even looking at someone with lustful intent is committing adultery in the heart. That’s not just a guideline—it’s a royal command.

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Fire contained can be a wonderful gift

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State One Problem

Clearly identifying the actual problem is one of the most important steps in resolving conflict in marriage. When a couple is able to name the issue respectfully and specifically, it prevents both partners from slipping into unkind or destructive patterns. Without that clarity, arguments often spiral—not toward resolution, but toward power plays, emotional manipulation, or unspoken resentment.

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Leaning Toward

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Your Spouses wants the Truth

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Admitting Your Fear

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How to find a good sex addiction counselor

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Cherish Your Spouse

“Cherish” is a word we don’t use often enough—but it holds incredible power in a marriage. To cherish someone means more than simply loving them. It means making them feel seen, valued, and deeply special. It’s the art of intentionally reminding your spouse, in both small and meaningful ways, that they are treasured.

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Walking in Love

Walking in love is more than a feeling—it’s a daily choice to walk in the Spirit. When you truly love God, inviting Him into every moment, especially those moments where lust might tempt you, something powerful happens: the grip of lust weakens. Love brings light to dark places, and when God’s presence fills your heart, the shadows of temptation begin to fade.

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Spirituality is crucial

Spirituality is a crucial and often transformative element in the recovery journey of a sex addict. Every human being is inherently spiritual, and this spiritual dimension must be nurtured for true healing to take place. Unfortunately, for many sex addicts, their spirituality may have been neglected, misunderstood, or even absent during their formative years. Sexual addiction often robs individuals not only of emotional, relational, and vocational growth but also of social and spiritual development. For some, spirituality is an entirely new and unfamiliar concept that must be discovered and embraced in recovery.

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