Lust is an absolute liar! It is conniving and out to destroy you, your family, and your legacy. The first lie I want to uncover is the concept of “more is better.” Lust tells you that if you have more: more money, more toys, more real or virtual body parts to look at, and more Internet pornography viewing time, that your life will be better.
If you had a father who was a manly man raise you, he was there to help you stay out of trouble. If you feared your father, you had respect for your father, understood his values, and knew the consequences. My son knows I love him and I tell him and demonstrate that to him daily. He also knows the value of respecting women, especially his mother. He knows disrespecting women would be immediately painful. He has a healthy respect and fear of dad.
Traveling through the recovery journey will require you to be humble and honest. You will need to "thaw out" your feelings and allow others through what I call "the glass wall" that has protected you. The journey will require you to "tell all", so that you can be free from the lie, "If you really knew me, you wouldn't love me." This will require you to be honest about the abuses, neglects and abandonments that you may have in your past. Bravely search through your family tree and see if there are any others who were afflicted with this same addiction--only during their generation it was yet to be labeled or identified as treatable. All of this will need to be accomplished so you can now experience friendship, serenity, intimacy--and the psychological and spiritual stability--that are part of the wonderful journey of recovery. This journey will uniquely be yours alone. It may prove to be intense and at the…
As men of God, we should live with honesty and transparency, striving to integrate God into every area of our lives, including our sexuality. In this 7 day series, Dr. Doug Weiss offers encouraging prayers for you to break free from lust. Whether you are single, married, divorced, or widowed, you can make a choice to live with sexual integrity - and this choice can impact those around you and future generations.
Just as it can be painful for a recovering alcoholic to see how their drinking damaged those around them, it can be painful for the recovering intimacy anorexic to realize what he or she has done to hurt others. For many intimacy anorexics, it is much more comfortable to be the victim. As a matter of fact, they have often been the victim of their own behavior, of their own past, and even of recent relationships. But past victimization by others just makes it that much more difficult for intimacy anorexics to realize that they have actually harmed other people. The acting in behavior is just the start of this list. The harm can be very subtle. Take time and search your mind and heart, in order to complete your healing.
As men of God, we should live with honesty and transparency, striving to integrate God into every area of our lives, including our sexuality. In this 7 day series, Dr. Doug Weiss offers encouraging prayers for you to break free from lust. Whether you are single, married, divorced, or widowed, you can make a choice to live with sexual integrity - and this choice can impact those around you and future generations.
Being the visual creatures that many addicts are, magazines can stimulate them into unhealthy thoughts. Magazines have made addiction of various types seem glamorous. Magazines are created to get you into a fantasy state, so you buy their products. The magazines I am talking about are pop magazines, not pornography magazines. Hopefully, this is already a set boundary.
“Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character."
Marriage is a great relationship—probably the greatest next to our relationship with Jesus. Marriage, however, is not the only relationship a person needs to stay stable and healthy.
Most married couples have children eventually, and it is best when both parents are involved in the nurturing and growth of their children in the ways of the Lord. As a parent, you can do your part in being a godly father or godly mother, but you cannot control your spouse’s lack of responsibility or over-responsibility.
Financial faithfulness is also important in a marriage relationship. Everyone has heard about the two things that people argue about most in a marriage: sex and money. That may be true for most couples, but it doesn’t have to be in your marriage relationship.
Sexual faithfulness is probably the first idea of faithfulness that popped into your head when we started this conversation on faithfulness. Faithfulness requires exclusive devotion to each other.
Emotional faithfulness is also an important part of marital faithfulness. Emotional faithfulness means that your spouse is the person with whom you really share your heart or emotional self. Your spouse should not be second to your parents, friends, co-workers, or even to your children.
Spiritual faithfulness is a crucial form of faithfulness in a Christian marriage. Spiritual faithfulness means putting God first in absolute loyalty. This means that you as an individual will develop and maintain the spiritual muscle of faithfulness through prayer, study, fellowship, and service. We express faithfulness to God individually by aspiring to know, love, and serve Him only in greater and greater measure throughout our lifetime.
Faithfulness is the cornerstone upon which the other love agreements can be built and can thrive. Without the agreement of faithfulness, your marriage will suffer seasons of damage. In my seventeen years as a counselor, I have seen the ravages of unfaithfulness in various areas of many couples’ marriages.
Porn addiction help is harder to find than you think. Many counselors will falsely advertise they treat sex addiction. I have googled this in several major cities. 90% of those counselors who advertise have no certifications or extra training supporting their claim of being able to treat sex addiction, so be sure of their background when choosing a therapist. Secondly, verify that they are not masturbating or viewing pornography themselves.
This type of porn addict has challenges in near relationships of the romantic or marriage type. They are closed off emotionally to their spouse or significant others.
This type of porn addict is trickier. You may have never told anyone that you were sexually abused or used as a sex object by someone multiple times. This sexual trauma set up some serious issues in your life. However, all sex feels good, and you still give chemically to the perpetration of acts of the perpetration.
This type of porn addict was abandoned, abused, neglected, raped, sexually used, bullied, felt unworthy, unloved, and/or experienced other negative events like their parents divorcing growing up. These experiences create legitimate soul pain. When the soul is in pain, it’s no different than a toothache. This emotional toothache wants medicine. This adolescent person finds the fantasy world of being wanted, desired, powerful, adopted, and loved by the fantasy world and pornography.
This type of porn addict has an honest-to-God chemical imbalance in their brain. It can be a chemically based depression, manic depression, any bipolar disorder, or cyclothymic disorder. If you think you might have one of these conditions, Google these terms for more information.
This type of porn addict is literally taking the highest level of endorphins and opiates that sex gives and attaching them to the object of pornography instead of a real person. These endorphins and opiates are like “brain cookies.” They give your brain a release of chemicals which make you feel good and block your pain receptors.
Porn addiction is probably the fastest growing addiction worldwide. Porn addiction is one of the several forms of sex addiction. A porn addict will usually know they are addicted, live a secret life, and have internal conflicts about their “double life.” They usually feel like people wouldn’t love them, accept them, or want to be with them if they really knew about their secret porn life.
Self-help sex addiction treatment is a low-cost option to begin treating sex addiction on your own. This sex addict help option involves educating yourself, gaining information, and creating structure in your life to help you fight sex addiction. You can do this using books, workbooks, DVDs, and information.
Twelve-step support groups for sex addiction treatment are a community recovery option for treating sex addiction. This sex addict help option involves joining a twelve-step group or freedom group similar to sex addicts anonymous and sexaholics anonymous.