Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #5

Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #5

I love being a lover spouse. So, I randomly buy cards for Lisa. These aren’t just for birthdays or special occasions. These are just simple “I love you” cards so she knows I’m thinking about her. To be creative, I place them in different places—her sink, car, under her pillow, by the blender where she makes her morning smoothie and her office. If you’re already a lover, you’ve already been creative with your spouse. Keep this going. Not everyone feels good at being creative. Let me share some ideas for those who feel challenged in the area of creativity. I find creativity is like a muscle—the more you use it, the more it grows and becomes stronger. The less you use creativity, the smaller it becomes in your life.

D Douglas Weiss
Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #4

Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #4

Do you remember making it a priority for yourself to remember things that were important to them such as specific dates, people and events? Do you remember planning a date for your spouse with such detail that you knew they’d have a good time? Do you remember buying a favorite coffee, tea, chocolate or flower that you knew they would love?

D Douglas Weiss
Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #3

Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #3

If I was to ask you make a list of your spouse’s positive qualities how long would that take? If I was to ask you to make a list of your spouse’s negative characteristics how long would that take? Whatever would take you the longest might be your focus.

D Douglas Weiss
Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #2

Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #2

Then there’s the future preoccupation of what you’ll do later today, next week, month, year, and so on. Your preoccupation with the one you love goes into thousands of directions—what they wore, how they smelled, what they did, how they smiled, how they touched you, the activities and people you interacted with together, what you learned about them, how they think and feel, how compatible they are to you, and how they complement you. They’re amazing, wonderful and just thinking of them gives you a warm feeling.

D Douglas Weiss
Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #1

Becoming a Pre-Occupied Spouse #1

What do you think of when I say the preoccupied? Perhaps words such as adrift, aloof, day dreaming, or unfocused come to mind? We can get preoccupied about sports (especially in certain regions in our country), politics, work, hobbies, technology, entertainment and apps. The world we currently live in provides ample opportunity to divide and distract our heart, mind, and emotions on any given day. However, when a lover is preoccupied with the one they love, it’s really a different experience than being preoccupied about anything else in the universe.

D Douglas Weiss
Characteristics of the Emotionally Internalized #1-Responsible for Their Emotions

Characteristics of the Emotionally Internalized #1-Responsible for Their Emotions

The characteristics of an emotionally internalized person can be clearly seen. With the externalized person, it is as if there is a zipper tag on the outside of them for others to control, whereas the internalizer’s tag is on the inside. As we walk through the characteristics over the next few weeks, you will get a clear idea who these people are and how to recognize them. You may even be surprised to see that those in your life may be more internalized emotionally than you once thought.

D Douglas Weiss
Triumph

Triumph

I want to share with you the best part of this letter, the one verse that turned my world upside down and fueled my desire to stay sexually pure over the past two decades. I have walked you through some painful Scriptures up until now. Now here is the payoff. “To the one who is victorious and does my will to the end, I will give authority over the nations…” (Revelation 2:26).

D Douglas Weiss
Satans Deep Secret

Satans Deep Secret

Satan's so called, deep secret is quite simple: be immoral. He has used this same trick throughout the centuries, but it’s not a secret anymore. Anytime you’re being tempted into immorality or viewing pornography, you are following the teaching of our enemy hook, line and sinker. Anytime you are following the path of sexual purity, you are following the Spirit and teaching of our God. It is that simple. I can tell you that after seeing so many men come clean from this fog, the simplicity of the truth of sexual purity becomes clear and self-evident once again. Actually, I love seeing this light bulb come on in men, be it at a conference or in my office.

D Douglas Weiss
Sin of Withholding #7 - Jesus Reaction

Sin of Withholding #7 - Jesus Reaction

I think it is important to cover Jesus’s reactions to the stories previously mentioned as it relates to those who withhold. Amazingly, through these stories of withholding, Jesus reacts exactly the same way. We know our God is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)

D Douglas Weiss
Sin of Withholding #6 - Withholding in Marriage

Sin of Withholding #6 - Withholding in Marriage

In Ephesians 5:25-28 Paul gives Christians the antidote to any withholding pattern that can creep up in a Christians marriage. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

D Douglas Weiss
Sin of Withholding #3 - The "All In" God

Sin of Withholding #3 - The "All In" God

When God took out his own pen and wrote His Ten Commandments, the first one was - “I am the Lord your God who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. You shall have no other gods before me.” Exodus 20:1-2

D Douglas Weiss