Sexual shame poses an enormous obstacle to your sexual success. Harboring shame of any kind can limit your ability to be fully available in the bedroom. This is true even more so when it comes to sexual shame. Since most men keep such shame a secret, the shame often becomes so deeply imbedded that it’s almost a part of the man himself. Since a man is sexual daily to some degree, he will feel this shame daily. It plagues his quiet moments and frightens him in the face of real intimacy. It talks to him when he is alone.

The very first part of dealing with any form of shame is acknowledging that it is a part of your life. Write down the specific sexual shame you have struggled with.

Next write out your feelings about these issues. Writing down your feelings is vital to freeing yourself from the heavy weight of guilt that has beleaguered you. Without completing this step, you may stay emotionally stuck on this issue, which in turn will keep you from making an action plan for your own sexual success.