10 Tips on How to Remain Lust Free
Lust Free Tip #1 OF 10 - OWNING
Heroes
There is a fantasy in our culture that many Christian singles have purchased, hook, line, and sinker. The fantasy is that there is a special person who will unconditionally love you, meet your needs, and take responsibility for your entire life. They will rescue you from the worst parts and clean up your messes that you have made by personal irresponsibility. The myth is that there is a hero.
Are you willing to fight against lust?
If you follow me by any means, you know my stance on lust. Lust is an evil enemy that will lie to you, degrade you, embarrass you, and ultimately steal your destiny from you. Lust presents itself as a plaything for you, but as you have likely learned by now, it is vicious. However, lust is not just about lying; lust has waged war. Since war has been declared, you have to make a few primary decisions. Are you willing to fight? Are you willing to kill? Are you willing to be killed? Are you going to protect your family, friends, and church against this evil enemy?
What Type of Friend Are You?
All of us no matter how old we may become can still be a child, adolescent, or adult in any given area of life. Someone might be 60 and financially or spiritually still a child. Here are the three stages that we can evaluate others and ourselves in the social are of our lives.
Break the Chain of Lust with This Simple Weapon
The phrase “not possible” is by far the most paralyzing lie lust has in its arsenal. The lie, “it’s not possible to be lust-free” is quite simple, but its impact can have decades of results.
Daily Prayers for Your Wife
Whether you are close to your earthly in-laws or separated by distance or discord, you have a Heavenly Father-in-Law who will never leave you. If you are a married Christian, you married God’s son or daughter. That makes Him your Father-in-Law.
Lust is Deceptive
The lust inside of you will try to come at you in a legalistic manner and suggest, “Well, you’re not committing adultery, you’re not actually even touching them.” Most of you have heard this insidious lie which tries to grant you permission to lust more and plant more seeds. You begin lusting longer, allow the seeds to grow, and ultimately establish sexual strongholds in your thoughts, beliefs, or behaviors.
Being a Strong Leader in Today's Culture
When I speak at Men’s conferences all over the world, I talk to men about how to fight the battle of lust in the early stages. James 1:15, talks about the three stages of this battle; first lust, second sin, third death. The best way not to tolerate sexual immorality is to kill lust.
Lust is an Opportunist
We have all heard various phrases about opposites such as, “that’s like oil and water.” Lust and love are polar opposites, much like oil and water. The origin of lust is our own self. Love, on the other hand, not only comes from God, it is God.
Coming Back from Infidelity
Counseling Christian leaders that have fallen to infidelity, pornography, prostitution, or other sexual inappropriateness has been a regular occurrence in my office for the last thirty years. When you do something or anything for almost thirty years, you learn quite bit about that subject. I want to share with you what I have learned about those who fall and get back into a growing ministry. I also want to share with you want I learned about those who fall and don’t go back to ministry or have such a small ministry if they do go back in their own strength.
The Story of Jezebel
In Revelation, Jesus introduces the “woman Jezebel.” The Lord is using a name from the Old Testament to describe this woman’s character. The original Jezebel was introduced in the book of 1 Kings as the wife of King Ahab. She had profound influence, and used it for evil. She quickly became the most feared person in Israel. The Bible records several incidents that made her infamous for evil deeds ranging from false accusations, to murder, to mass murder, to forgery. However, history has shown that the name Jezebel is now primarily synonymous with sexual immorality. And from that one association come all the other evils that plagued Israel during her reign. She derived her power from her sexuality and then used it to dominate, control, manipulate, and murder.
Celebrating Your Spouse
Celebration is one of the favorite characteristics that I love about God. If there is one thing our God is, it is a celebrator. He could have made the world all one color, but no, He celebrates His creation with endless amounts of color. All you have to do is drive upstate New York in the fall to see the splendor of color.
Becoming Emotionally Fit
About five years ago I got myself into a situation: I was 15-20 pounds over my ideal weight. I carried this extra weight for a couple years and found it hard to lose.
3 Tips on Overcoming Lust
Lust is a powerful enemy in the lives of men all over the world. (Yes, it affects women as well, but I am primarily speaking to men in this article.) Although collectively as Christians we know lust is wrong, the immorality of lust is still prevalent throughout the church. In over 30 years of counseling sex addicts and witnessing first-hand the amazing miracles and healing God can do, I have identified some common lust habits as well as proven tools to overcome them. God desires for all men to live a clean life and be free from lust once and for all. In this article, I will outline three proven tips to help you as a man overcome lust and fulfill your God-given potential.
When Men are Kings
For many years men have struggled with their role within the church. They may be successful at home, in business and socially but when they walk through the doors of the church many often feel unsure of their place. Many feel that if they didn’t attend Bible school, they can’t become a valuable instrument in their church. For a long time, men have been sold a lie in the church that they are laity not royalty.
Your Freedom isn't just about you
There is a direct connection between your sexual behavior and your destiny in Christ. God has designed you and me to do amazing things for his kingdom, and our level of sexual purity will determine how useful we are. Sex and destiny are linked. This is why the devil works so hard to ensnare you in sexual sin. His goal is to neutralize you through immoral sexual behavior, thereby making you ineffective for the kingdom. And after twenty years of counseling men on this issue, I can tell you this is evidence that the devil is scared of you. Yes, afraid. Here’s why.
A quick tip to help you through the inevitable conflict in your marriage
Though marriage can be wonderful, it can also have inevitable conflict. Conflict is a precursor to change and growth toward becoming one flesh. Conflict is a part of your marriage progressing toward becoming a fully functioning trinity.
Bad Ideas Can Keep You in Your Out of Control Lifestyle
One of the many scapegoats that can be utilized by someone who has tried to get control over what is controlling them. Our culture and every culture for that matter is full of ideas. Since humans generate these ideas there are really good ideas all the way to really bad ideas.
Am I Addicted to Sex?
Sex addiction is getting more and more media attention. I have been asked by Oprah, Dr. Phil, Montel, even (this is really dating me) Phil Donahue and so many others what sex addiction is and how can somebody know if they are a sex addict.
Pornography is killing marriages
Pornography is a real killer of marriages today. Addiction to pornography is a huge problem in many families and the church as a whole. The impacts this evil has had on the church is huge. I have seen the total devastation that stems from pornography and inappropriate behaviors. I have written several books on sexual addiction and its impact on the spouse and children.
Ministering to the Sexually Addicted
Long gone are the days when pastors have not had to deal with sexual issues or the results of sexual issues in their congregations. In the past decade, it seems that adultery has increased, fornication has become almost normal, and pornography is common with men in the church.
11 Key Characteristics for Emotional Externalizer
People who generally externalize their feelings share a certain set of characteristics. This cluster of characteristics, seen here and there without identification, could appear random or even to be an aspect of these people’s personalities. However, when you see this cluster identifiably together, you are most likely dealing with or are in a relationship with an externalizer.
Confession can set you free from any addiction
Moving past your Anger
Anger can be a very important issue to address so that you can live a full life. As a counselor I know this anger piece will have to be addressed first before some of you can truly forgive. I know so many Christians go to counselors with abuse, trauma, and all kinds of wounding from others. They are quickly told to forgive without giving instructions on how to heal the wound. Years later they are still acting wounded but they are confused because they forgave the person.