Sexual abuse can be a roadblock to spiritual, emotional and sexual intimacy. For some individuals it appears that the abuse has not affected them much at all. They appear to be more resilient to the adverse affects.  Some are affected by the abuse for a period of time but seem to work through the issues.  Still others who have been sexually abused desperately need healing in their soul to process the pain they have and the memories that they presently feel and this person truly may need professional help to work through these past events.  All are valid responses to trauma.

If you fall into this last category, your offender has already ravaged many years of your life and I strongly encourage you to get professional help to heal if you need to do so. 

As you heal your spirit, soul and body from the trauma you will have more of yourself to give to your spouse and your children.  If you believe that these issues apply to you, outline what you feel you need to do and ask the Lord to direct you into the path of healing that you need to take to be free from the past.