Two Lies Lust is Telling You

1. “As long as I don’t…”

Time to Heal Part Two

Biblical Principle Two: Know Where the Healing is

Time to Heal Part One

Tips on Overcoming Lust

In a book I wrote several years ago called 101 Freedom Exercises: A Christian Guide for Sexual Addiction Recovery, I outline several exercises to help men get and stay free from lust. The following is a summarization of some of these exercises, as well as a few more I have learned along the way.

How to Use Your Thoughts to Overcome Worthlessness

Think about the relationship you have had with worthlessness and the voice it has had in your life. This relationship may have been decades in the making. You ran to worthless throughout your life and found worthless was always there for you. Worthless would give you the answer to try harder or the excuse not to try at all. Worthless has been your long-term friend and a well-established relationship for you.

How to Make your Marriage Stronger in 3 Daily Steps

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Jesus Gives You The Right To Be Free From Lust

In Western culture we have a real commitment to our rights. We want to express our right to do good, evil, or just be ourselves. Lust says that you have the right to lust, but I want to give you a tip on this: You have the “right” never to lust.

How To Discover Your Kingly Ministry

All of us who are Christians have a God-given purpose. Many of us are familiar with the motto “God has a plan for your life.” Yet how many believe and behave with this in mind? How many Christians believe their job, business, gifting or parenting ability is really significant to God?

Being Preoccupied With Your Spouse

Being a lover is part of your history prior to marrying the love of your life. Being a lover wasn’t forced on you, taught to you, or something you studied. Rather, being a lover was part of who you are. We were all lovers to some degree or another prior to marriage. For most of us, we were lovers to more than one person. When I use the term “lover,” I’m not in any manner eluding it to sex or sexuality. I mean you were giving of yourself in some or several ways toward another that symbolized or meant “I love you, the way you want to be loved.”

Cleansing Our Temple Like Jesus

In over 30 years of counseling, I have developed and used some tools in my practice to help my clients find healing in relationships and past hurts. In this article, I want to tell you about the exercise I like to call “Cleansing the temple.”

Seven Types of Cheaters

I count myself very fortunate to be able to do what I do. Day after day, people open up their lives, hearts and processes to me. I have learned volumes from my clients. I’ve even learned the reasons why people cheat.

Trinity of Marriage

In this trinity of marriage, we humans are equal in value. One does not rule over the other. A man is not a king in the triune marriage—God is. If a man thinks he can be king over an all-knowing, all-powerful God, he may be suffering from a delusion of grandeur.

Withholding Begins in the Garden

I want to share with you truly a revelation God has given to me as I have been faithfully in the laboratory of marriage and addiction for over three decades, this revelation is taken from an old testament scripture and will show you a sin pattern that God responds to quite strongly again and again. I liken what I am about to share with you as trying to understand the fathers heart. Growing up with your natural father you wanted to know two major things 1) what pleased your father and 2) what displeased your father. The sin of withholding goes back to the book of Genesis. After the first sin in the garden, we see Adam and Eve placed outside the garden.

5 Daily Exercises to Help You Believe You Are Worthy

I remember being in my dorm room in Bible College, having gotten radically saved just a few weeks prior to admission. An “I’m not worthy” voice began to talk to me. The Lord spoke to me loud and clear and asked me one simple question that changed my life. “Who are you going to believe, them or Me?”

Your Brain can help you stay clean

You all have heard of radar. Radar sends out a beam of sound and identifies objects further out from the submarine. If you have trained your brain wrong, you could have a side effect of what I call braindar. This braindar can sense a trigger, image, shape, or color of hair before you can even make full visual contact with the person or image.

Three signs that something is controlling your life

As human beings, we all have our stories to tell. Some of you may be struggling with slothfulness, envy, identity issues, fear of intimacy, rage, sexual struggles and many others. You have your own story to tell.

10 Tips on How to Remain Lust Free

Lust Free Tip #1 OF 10 - OWNING

Heroes

There is a fantasy in our culture that many Christian singles have purchased, hook, line, and sinker. The fantasy is that there is a special person who will unconditionally love you, meet your needs, and take responsibility for your entire life. They will rescue you from the worst parts and clean up your messes that you have made by personal irresponsibility. The myth is that there is a hero.

Are you willing to fight against lust?

If you follow me by any means, you know my stance on lust. Lust is an evil enemy that will lie to you, degrade you, embarrass you, and ultimately steal your destiny from you. Lust presents itself as a plaything for you, but as you have likely learned by now, it is vicious. However, lust is not just about lying; lust has waged war. Since war has been declared, you have to make a few primary decisions. Are you willing to fight? Are you willing to kill? Are you willing to be killed? Are you going to protect your family, friends, and church against this evil enemy?

What Type of Friend Are You?

All of us no matter how old we may become can still be a child, adolescent, or adult in any given area of life. Someone might be 60 and financially or spiritually still a child. Here are the three stages that we can evaluate others and ourselves in the social are of our lives.

Break the Chain of Lust with This Simple Weapon

The phrase “not possible” is by far the most paralyzing lie lust has in its arsenal. The lie, “it’s not possible to be lust-free” is quite simple, but its impact can have decades of results.

Daily Prayers for Your Wife

Whether you are close to your earthly in-laws or separated by distance or discord, you have a Heavenly Father-in-Law who will never leave you. If you are a married Christian, you married God’s son or daughter. That makes Him your Father-in-Law.

Common Myths About Forgiveness

The first myth about forgiveness is that the person who has sinned against you has to be present to forgive them. Some people don’t believe they can forgive someone unless they are right in front of them. I know personally most of the many people I have forgiven in my life were not present when I forgave them, and yet I was able to forgive them anyway.

Do You Have What It Takes To Become Emotionally Fit?

One universal, dynamic malady affects many of us, regardless of where we live on this vast planet we call Earth. Though this malady inflicts untold damage upon our lives and the lives of those we love, it often goes undetected.