Plan of Action

11 Key Characteristics for Emotional Externalizer

People who generally externalize their feelings share a certain set of characteristics. This cluster of characteristics, seen here and there without identification, could appear random or even to be an aspect of these people’s personalities. However, when you see this cluster identifiably together, you are most likely dealing with or are in a relationship with an externalizer.

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Moving past your Anger

Anger can be a very important issue to address so that you can live a full life. As a counselor I know this anger piece will have to be addressed first before some of you can truly forgive. I know so many Christians go to counselors with abuse, trauma, and all kinds of wounding from others. They are quickly told to forgive without giving instructions on how to heal the wound. Years later they are still acting wounded but they are confused because they forgave the person.

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Quick Tips

Speaking Kind Words

Speaking kind words to your spouse continually is a simple but very powerful task. Notice the little and large things your spouse does for you. Make kind comments to your spouse in front of your friends and children. Always thank them when they are serving you in some manner. If you really want to make your point clear, thank them for being kind; “Thank you, honey, for getting the butter; that was kind of you,” can highlight their kindness. This is better than, “thanks honey.” Although both are adequate, the first comment crystallizes to your spouse that you actually see their acts of kindness. They will eventually believe what you tell them--that they are kind.

Lust is a Perpetrator

Lust knows its voice is not nice so it cloaks itself in niceness. The intention is to capitalize on your weak moments for the express purpose of creating weakness in your life. That’s what perpetrators do. Believe the truth the next time lust tries to tell you how nice it is. Simply tell lust it’s lying and that you’ll take your weakness to Jesus where you will always become stronger.

True Value

True value is found in each person’s soul. This includes one’s heart, spirit, body, mind, will, emotions, relationships, and all their strengths and weaknesses. They are looking to be valued. Reflect for a moment about what or who you value and list them. Include the behaviors that support this.

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Protect the Intimacy in Your Marriage

As people living in a culture that is obsessed with technology we need to discuss this in the context of marital intimacy. The Internet is a great tool for research, shopping and many other services. Like the television it can be used for good such as carrying the gospel across the world or for negativity like so much of the prime time television.

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Clean Class Five
- As a Christian man your sex organ has three owners:
Clean Class Four
Dr. Doug Weiss, professional psychologist and president of AASAT, discusses in this 4th Session of our Clean Class the two ways Christians approach the problem of being clean or not and the two sided problem that can occur if we are not clean.
Clean Class Three
In this 3rd session of our Clean Class, Dr. Doug Weiss, professional psychologist and president of the AASAT group discusses how your sexuality affects you and those around you, the importance of staying clean from sex addiction and how to do so.
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Dr. Weiss talks about what it means to be a protector and the role of men to protect women. Staying clean from sex addiction. Marriage was God's final creation. When you are married, you are God's son in law. How do you think God would grade you as his son in law? What we love we protect, and what we protect we love. If you are protecting a sexual secret, then you are loving the behavior or the pornography and hurting the people you love.
Clean Class - Day One
In this session I want you to prayerfully consider your boundaries around:

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