First Step For A Sex Addict
John is 40 years old and has been married for more than 12 years and has 2 children. He has been fortunate to have climbed a corporate ladder and is making more than 200K a year.
Plan of Action
Encouraging your spouse to grow their gifts
I want to take a few minutes to talk to you about the gift of your spouse. If you have kids, as a good parent, you take the gifts of your children very seriously. You realize God gave you that child or children as gift(s), and that each child has several gifts inside his or her little being. That is the way I think it ought to be, at least.
Willingness plays an important role in the choices you make
Lust has so many different angles it uses to lie to you. One of the oldest lies told to men is, “Different is better.” It’s the same as the old adage, “The grass is always greener on the other side.”
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Quick Tips
Admitting is Critical
Many of us have had situations in our childhood that we have had to admit. Maybe we stole something or something happened to us and we had to admit what we did. Do you remember those feelings of dread before we admitted something? Then we went ahead and admitted it. We told what we did or what happened to us. After we admitted it, we felt less heavy or burdened and as if we could now move on. Admitting for the sexual addict is one of the hardest things we will do in our recovery. Admitting is a very important aspect of recovery and only those who admit to sexual addiction can move forward in recovery and life.
Intimacy Roadblocks #4
The pain of living with someone with Intimacy Anorexia is huge. If you see yourself or your spouse in any of the characteristics this can be a great beginning to understanding what’s keeping you both from an awesome marriage.
Intimacy Roadblocks #3
Sex addiction is one addiction I’ve specialized in treating for more than thirty years now. This addiction brings its own unique set of difficulties for the addict and his or her spouse. As with other addictions, it robs the person of emotional, spiritual, and moral development. Sex addiction comes with added layers of secrecy and shame, which limits his or her ability to be authentic inside or outside the bedroom. It has an increasing distraction element to it that insidiously steals from the marriage or relationship. Hours of pornography, masturbation, sexting others, or arranging sexual hookups or relationships with others become huge impediments to a great marriage.
Intimacy Roadblocks #2
This roadblock to intimacy is one not as widely thought of as the abuse roadblock, but it can definitely affect your marriage at a very deep level. If you’re addicted to anything— alcohol, drugs, sex, pornography, food, gambling, entertainment, social media, work, ministry and so on— it robs you of emotional, spiritual, and moral development. I’ve worked with thousands of addicts in my center and this is so true.
Intimacy Roadblocks #1
Some of us were physically abused and hit intensely without any purpose. Some were physically neglected growing up, and didn’t receive the medical attention or other help they needed. Immature, addicted, or mood disordered parents might have inflicted emotional abuse or neglect. Yelling, shaming, and falsely accusing, can damage souls if this was the environment in which you grew up. As children and adolescents you may have been neglected emotionally and unable to be honest or share feelings in the home or weren’t supported in aspects of your uniqueness (another form of neglect).
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Clean Class
Clean Class Five
- As a Christian man your sex organ has three owners:
Clean Class Four
Dr. Doug Weiss, professional psychologist and president of AASAT, discusses in this 4th Session of our Clean Class the two ways Christians approach the problem of being clean or not and the two sided problem that can occur if we are not clean.
Clean Class Three
In this 3rd session of our Clean Class, Dr. Doug Weiss, professional psychologist and president of the AASAT group discusses how your sexuality affects you and those around you, the importance of staying clean from sex addiction and how to do so.
Clean Class- Day Two
Dr. Weiss talks about what it means to be a protector and the role of men to protect women. Staying clean from sex addiction. Marriage was God's final creation. When you are married, you are God's son in law. How do you think God would grade you as his son in law? What we love we protect, and what we protect we love. If you are protecting a sexual secret, then you are loving the behavior or the pornography and hurting the people you love.
Clean Class - Day One
In this session I want you to prayerfully consider your boundaries around:
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Fear
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Trust
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