In this video, psychologist Dr. Doug Weiss explains why realizing “I am the problem” can actually be good news in the recovery process.

Many individuals come to counseling—often for issues like sex addiction, pornography use, affairs, or intimacy anorexia—believing the problems in their relationship are shared or caused by their spouse. Dr. Weiss explains that when someone recognizes that their choices are the core problem, they gain something powerful. If they are the problem, they can be the solution.

Instead of blaming a spouse, past experiences, or circumstances (even though those may be influences), a person must take ownership of their choices and behaviors. When someone accepts full responsibility, they can take concrete action toward recovery. By creating and following a clear recovery plan (through accountability, counseling, recovery materials, and consistent actions), a person can rebuild trust and restore their relationship.

For counseling and support, contact Heart to Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 or email heart2heart@xc.org to connect with a certified therapist who can help you start your healing journey. For accelerated recovery, book a 3-Day or 5-Day Intensive to get a lot of specialized help in a short amount of time.

Visit our Partner Betrayal Trauma website for more resources on this topic: https://partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/

For information and resources for sex addiction, check out https://www.sexaddict.com/

Learn more about Intimacy Anorexia, click here: https://intimacyanorexia.com/

To learn more about our counseling services, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/relationship-and-addiction-counseling/

For more information about our intensive program to get a lot of help in recovering from Sex Addiction, Partner Betrayal Trauma, or Intimacy Anorexia, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intensives/

To join one of our many support groups, visit the following links:
Phone Groups: https://www.drdougweiss.com/groups/
Free Facebook Groups: https://www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/

Visit the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy to find a certified therapist and other helpful resources: https://aasat.org/

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0:00 Video Start
0:28 The Good News of Realizing You’re the Problem
1:28 Shared Problems, Shared Responsibilities
1:55 When You’re the Problem, 100% Responsible for the Solution
2:16 Other Influences vs Our Choices
2:32 With a Plan You Can Recover and Change
3:22 You Can Be The Hero
4:48 Admitting If You Are The Problem
5:02 Taking Responsibility and Getting Help
5:46 Being Encouraged By Others’ Recovery Stories
6:10 Conclusion