Lust hates your wife or future wife. Lust will flat out lie and create multiple deceptions about her. Lust will have you focus on every flaw of hers, even if only one, and take you to a place in your mind and heart where she seems not to be enough in some way. Once you are deceived into thinking she is not enough, you can feel entitled to lust, whether by viewing pornography, masturbating, or flirting with other women who have the magical “enough” in them.

The truth is, all women are flawed (and so are you). Marriage involves three people: God, a man, and a woman. She was not created to meet all of your needs.

Often when a man is deceived into believing lies about his wife, I’ll ask a few questions: How regularly do you pray with your wife? How often do you share your feelings? How often do you take her on dates? The answer is almost always some version of “not much” or “not at all.” When you spiritually and emotionally nurture her, giving her the basic need of alone time, she can be more of who she is created to be.

Your wife is enough. How you maintain her on a daily basis is what you want to fix your attention and focus on. When lust comes to tell you your wife isn’t enough, fight back with the fact that God picked her, and she’s more than enough for you. Be privileged to be her husband and you’ll not allow lust to talk to you about your wife.