We all know a Christian couple who have been damaged and divorced because of some form of infidelity. Circumstances surrounding the dissolution of their marriage might involve a long sexual affair, a one-night stand, an anonymous encounter from someone via the Internet or even paid-for sex.

I counsel couples struggling with infidelity. Couples fly in to Colorado Springs on a weekly basis to visit my offices from all over the world to attend Intensive sessions to repair all forms of infidelity.

When a couple models their marriage after the paradigm of husband and wife, they create a set of rules to perform by. They can tend to move toward more of a functionship than a relationship and stop really being lovers.

Quietly they begin to feel less a priority to their spouse because in a functionship, the priority is managing the marriage around all the other priorities. The task of managing those other priorities has replaced connection, quality time, and dreaming together. Dating has lost its priority and sex has moved to familiar or “have-to” attitude rather than a “get to” attitude. If this sounds too familiar I highly encourage you to make it a priority to read a marriage book, schedule regular dates, put your cell phone away and begin to switch your attitude.