Imagine waking up in love with your spouse rather than feeling like you are in some philosophical, duty-based, check-off-the-box of being a good husband or wife state of mind. Instead you wake up wowed and feel the same way you were enamored by them when you first held hands or kissed.

You can have a lovership like this if you both remain having the attitude of a lover-spouse and avoid being just husband and wife. Being a husband and wife is the name society gives your relationship but being a lover is who you are to your spouse.