A lovership is when we not only believe we can be a lover to our spouse every day, we actually authentically behave this way.

Herein lies the real trick. You can’t be a lover your whole life if you don’t “believe” you can. You probably won’t be a lover to your spouse if you don’t even think that is the goal in marriage.

You see, our behavior tells us what we actually and truly believe. If you believe you are a lover for life like I do, you’re more likely to move toward actually being a lover. You want to be creative and expressive toward your spouse .

If at the end of the day you asked yourself, ‘Was I a great lover to my spouse? To my God?’ this would invoke great insight into how you’re actually behaving toward your spouse.

If you ask yourself, ‘Was I a good husband/wife today?’ you would probably go through your role definition and answer accordingly. So, you can always track what you actually believe about anything including marriage based on your actual behavior.