“You first” is usually a polite saying we have when two people intersect a door at the same time. “You first” can be what you say to someone when the waitress comes to your table to take your order. “You first” is also the best first step in the forgiveness lifestyle.

You might have heard some preacher preach on loving others as ourselves from the 10 commandments in Exodus 20. As a counselor I know the way some people love themselves and to wish that on others may not be a great idea! I have also seen people have great difficulties forgiving others if they have not first forgiven themselves. So as I said, “you first.”