Intimacy Anorexics have many strategies to avoid intimacy and sexuality. For some anorexics, they use the sexual encounter itself to accomplish avoidance and intentionally give pain to their spouse. If you are punishing or pushing away your spouse through sex, then you can clearly see this as an anorexic strategy to give pain, so you can be avoidant.

Here are some examples:

• Not being present
• Discouraging statement
• Making it fast
• Playing games

Track your next 20 sexual encounters to see if you have used any punishing through sex strategies.