Fire is one of the best analogies for understanding male sexuality—especially when it involves unchecked lust, fantasy, pornography, masturbation, or other non-relational sexual behaviors outside the marriage.

Fire, in its proper place, is a powerful and beneficial force. Humanity has survived, thrived, and found comfort through fire for thousands of years. We cook over it, warm ourselves by it, and even enjoy its glow in the safety of a fireplace. Contained fire is a gift.

But fire outside of its boundaries is dangerous. It destroys, consumes, and leaves lasting damage.

Sexuality is much the same. It is a gift—intended to be expressed and enjoyed only within the safe, committed, and relational context of marriage. When honored within that container, sex is energizing, comforting, deeply satisfying, and capable of strengthening emotional and spiritual intimacy.

A husband’s sexual focus and appreciation are meant for one woman—his wife. She is God’s perfect and complete sexual will for his life. When sexual energy is kept within the covenant of marriage, it blesses rather than burns.