Lust is tricky. Even though you don’t deserve the lifelong, increasingly beautiful helpmate in your life, lust will tell you that you still don’t have enough.

Somehow you have been told that what you have is not enough. (Which, when you break it down, almost becomes comical.) For example, you may have married a woman with a specific body type. But lust tells you that she needs to be the exact opposite body type, and then you will be happy. If she has curly hair, you want straight; if she’s tall, you want someone short; if she has blue eyes, you want brown. Lust tells you she isn’t enough. You then believe the lie, “I don’t have enough, because I don’t have . . . ”

Here is where it gets difficult. The lie doesn’t just hurt you. Imagine your wife. She knows that she is divinely created, but senses she is not enough for you, and that you deeply desire some elusive person she can never be. Consequently, her pain is great and this affects her daily life because deep down, she knows the reason she isn’t celebrated is because she is not enough for you.