This type of porn addict was abandoned, abused, neglected, raped, sexually used, bullied, felt unworthy, unloved, and/or experienced other negative events like their parents divorcing growing up. These experiences create legitimate soul pain. When the soul is in pain, it’s no different than a toothache. This emotional toothache wants medicine. This adolescent person finds the fantasy world of being wanted, desired, powerful, adopted, and loved by the fantasy world and pornography.
Porn makes love to your soul. Your soul feels safe, secure, loved, and wanted. This escape through the portal of porn is desired. Who doesn’t want to feel wanted and have an orgasm at the same time – right!?
You not only become Pavlov’s porn dog salivating but sedated repeatedly, calm in your soul. Porn becomes your lover, friend, confidant, and your “safe place.” Again your soul “medicine” becomes an addiction and the addiction becomes the problem.