Everybody needs an emotional cheerleader, someone who encourages you and lifts your spirit when you are feeling low. To serve another person emotionally does not require the ability to solve problems – it just requires your presence and support.

An emotional servant invites his or her spouse to discover hidden feelings so he or she can understand what is going on inside. An emotional servant doesn’t shame his or her spouse for incongruent feelings and doesn’t bring those feelings back up later to belittle that person.

Be committed to becoming your spouse’s emotional servant. Keep yourself emotionally fit so that you know and understand the feelings you are experiencing within yourself. Be vulnerable yourself so your spouse will feel safe sharing his or her feelings with you.

Above all, protect your spouse’s heart. What your spouse shares with you is shared in utmost confidence – don’t share it with friends, parents, or siblings. It is to be kept just between the two of you.