Blame - The intimacy anorexic will blame their spouse for the problems in the marriage.

Blame, as an anorexic characteristic, is almost universal. Blame comes to life when an issue or problem comes up in the marriage and the anorexic blames or puts responsibility on the spouse for the issue, instead of acknowledging their contribution to the problem or issue.

Intimacy anorexics wants to be in the “good box” all of the time, you will see that it makes being flawed (irresponsible, thoughtless, careless, bad, etc.) unacceptable to discuss (if you are the anorexic).

Example: “I would define blame as using my spouse’s behavior as a reason to accuse them of something they were not responsible for instead of looking at my own behaviors. Blame includes displaced anger and failure to take responsibility for my own behavior.“