I don’t know if you realize this or not, but next to God, you are the loudest and most consistent voice your spouse will hear throughout their life.  So you decide what kind of voice your spouse hears.  You can choose a kind voice that supports and encourages your spouse by putting wind under their wings or another not so positive voice.  You can choose a silent voice or a gruff voice that discourages, degrades, and minimizes your spouse on a regular basis, but this is not the best choice.

The words you respond with, the spirit they are in, and the intentional planting of kindness can become not only a lifestyle but also your heart. I can tell you that being next to a kind heart is a warm feeling.  As our heart becomes kind, our words become kind as well.  As our words become kind, both our heart and our spouse’s heart are impacted to become more kind.