Praise is also important to men. Before you ask your wife for praise, first ask how often and what type of praise you are sowing into your wife’s heart. Are you praising who she is, or just what she does? Are you giving praise with enthusiasm or in a monotone voice? From whom do you hear words like, Great job; you’re smart, kind, creative, hardworking? If this is mostly outside of your marriage, talk to your wife. You might want to follow Lisa’s and my example:.I give her two praises a day and she gives me two praises a day. This keeps both of our needs for praise a priority.