Many but not all intimacy anorexics have a genuine fear of intimacy. Intimacy is when you can be fully seen, flawed and all, and still be loved and accepted. For many anorexics, whether in their family of origin, an abusive incident, neglect or an early romantic or sexual relationship, they did not experience safety or love with intimacy.

For some anorexics, it was actually negatively reinforced. In other words, they would bring their heart out to connect and it would be neglected, unheard, unseen or even worse. It would be given more pain when they came out so they legitimately would have fear to try this again.

Take a few minutes today and write a thank you and a goodbye letter to your fear of intimacy. Remember what helped you to survive can also keep you from living.