Marriage is a place to proactively love and serve in humility. If we’re not practicing in this, we’re missing the whole teaching of Jesus on love. Here you want to look at your behavior, not what you might wish or believe you’re doing but what you’re actually doing with excellence with your spouse. This will help you to see if you’re more on the lover-spouse side of that continuum.

Here again it doesn’t matter where you are at the moment other than for honesty sake. Be very honest with yourself. It isn’t too late for you to move toward being an awesome lover-spouse.