Admitting Your Fear

Admitting Your Fear

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Fears don’t need to be logical—or even realistic—to feel real. Fear is an emotion, and emotions don’t always ask permission from reality before they show up. You can feel terrified of something that hasn’t happened, probably won’t happen, or exists only in your imagination. But that doesn’t make the fear any less powerful in your body or mind.

The first and most essential step in dealing with fear is to admit it. Denying, minimizing, or rationalizing only gives fear more room to operate in the shadows. But when you name it, you bring it into the light. That’s when you can begin to challenge it—not with bravado or toxic positivity, but with truth.

Once the fear is named, you can begin the process of addressing it with rational, grounded thinking. You can ask: Is this fear based on facts? What’s the evidence? What’s the truth about my situation? Over time, these truths can soften the grip of irrational fears. You can begin to say, “That’s just a fear talking. It’s not the whole truth. My wife really does love me. I’m not defined by this moment. I can face this.”

A powerful tool in this process is simply writing your fears down. Getting them out of your head and onto paper gives you distance and perspective. You stop being consumed by them and start observing them. Here’s a sample exercise to get started:

Write down your fears or concerns related to this issue. Be honest. Don’t filter. Just name them.
Here’s an example:

My fears are:

  • It’s only going to get worse.

  • My wife will love me less if she knows the full truth.

  • I’ll obsess over this and make it worse in my head.

  • If I go to the doctor, I’m afraid they’ll find something seriously wrong with me.

  • I’m afraid I’ll end up hating myself.

  • I’m scared that no one can really help me.

  • I’m afraid of being a burden.

  • I’m afraid that even God is disappointed in me.

Now, go back and gently challenge each one. Ask:

  • Is this always true?

  • What would I say if a friend shared this fear with me?

  • What does God say about this?

  • What evidence do I have to the contrary?

Fear loses power when it's faced with compassion, truth, and intentional reflection. You're not weak for feeling fear. But you’re brave when you choose to face it.