Just as it can be painful for a recovering alcoholic to see how their drinking damaged those around them, it can be painful for the recovering intimacy anorexic to realize what he or she has done to hurt others. For many intimacy anorexics, it is much more comfortable to be the victim. As a matter of fact, they have often been the victim of their own behavior, of their own past, and even of recent relationships. But past victimization by others just makes it that much more difficult for intimacy anorexics to realize that they have actually harmed other people. The acting in behavior is just the start of this list. The harm can be very subtle. Take time and search your mind and heart, in order to complete your healing.