Have you ever felt like you’re no longer what your partner wants?
What once felt like a loving and caring relationship now feels like constant criticism, disconnection, and emotional distance. Instead of feeling chosen, you feel like you’re never enough—no matter what you do. You’re left questioning yourself, walking on eggshells, and wondering what changed.
In this video, psychologist Dr. Doug Weiss breaks down four common causes of this dynamic, including unrealistic expectations of an “ideal partner,” the damaging effects of pornography on intimacy, when they constantly check out others and compare them to you, and the hidden patterns of intimacy anorexia that create emotional and relational distance. These behaviors can lead to feeling unseen, unheard, and deeply alone in the relationship.
If you’re stuck in a cycle of not feeling valued, being put down, or overfunctioning just to keep the peace, this video will help you understand what’s really going on and why it’s not your fault.
If you need help navigating betrayal, emotional neglect, or relationship disconnection, you don’t have to go through it alone. Heart to Heart Counseling Center offers professional support, counseling, and resources to help you find clarity, healing, and a path forward. Call 719-278-3708 to connect with a therapist or support group today.
Read or watch the Partner Betrayal Trauma resources:
https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
For more information on Intimacy Anorexia, get the book or video at:
https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-book/
https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/intimacy-anorexia-video-download/
Download the Pain For Love video here: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/pain-for-love-video-download/
If you are a man who has experienced betrayal, you will find the tools and information in the Betrayed Man video useful and validating: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/the-betrayed-man-video-download-2/
Learn more about Intimacy Anorexia, click here: https://intimacyanorexia.com/
Visit our Partner Betrayal Trauma website for more resources on this topic: https://partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/
To learn more about our counseling services, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/relationship-and-addiction-counseling/
For more information about our intensive program to get a lot of help in recovering from Sex Addiction, Partner Betrayal Trauma, or Intimacy Anorexia, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intensives/
To join one of our many support groups, visit the following links:
Phone Groups: https://www.drdougweiss.com/groups/
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Visit the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy to find a certified therapist and other helpful resources: https://aasat.org/
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