Why Am I Still Having Triggers Months After the Affair? (Betrayal Trauma Triggers)

Posted on 01/05/2026
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Discovering that your partner had an affair is deeply traumatic. It affects your spirit, soul, and body, as well as how you see your past, present, and future. For many people, the pain doesn’t just fade away, but it causes triggers to manifest. As an expert in partner betrayal trauma, licensed psychologist Dr. Doug Weiss explains why betrayed partners can struggle with triggers months or even years after the affair. You’ll learn why having triggers is a normal part of the trauma, the different types of triggers, and the importance of getting help and support for yourself.

If you’re battling intrusive thoughts, emotional turmoil, or physical reactions long after the affair was discovered, this conversation will help you to understand what’s happening, validate what you’ve experienced, and show you how you can start healing. It’s not your fault that you were betrayed or triggered, but it is your responsibility to heal. You don’t have to walk this path alone and there is real support and hope for you.

For counseling and support, contact Heart to Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 or email heart2heart@xc.org to connect with a certified therapist who can help you start your healing journey. For accelerated recovery, book a 3-Day or 5-Day Intensive to get a lot of specialized help in a short amount of time.

Buy the Partner Betrayal Trauma book or watch the video to better understand your trauma and pain and how to start healing: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
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For healing exercises, check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma workbook: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/

If you are a man who has experienced betrayal, you will find the tools and information in the Betrayed Man video useful and validating: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/the-betrayed-man-video-download-2/

To learn more about how to manage and heal from triggers, get the Triggered video here: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/triggered-video-download/

Check out the Helping Her Heal set here:
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Visit our Partner Betrayal Trauma website for more resources on this topic: https://partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/

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Learn more about Intimacy Anorexia, click here: https://intimacyanorexia.com/

To learn more about our counseling services, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/relationship-and-addiction-counseling/

For more information about our intensive program to get a lot of help in recovering from Sex Addiction, Partner Betrayal Trauma, or Intimacy Anorexia, visit: https://www.drdougweiss.com/intensives/

Visit the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy to find a certified therapist and other helpful resources: https://aasat.org/

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