We admitted we were powerless over our intimacy anorexia—that our lives had become unmanageable.
The intimacy anorexic is a complicated being. Anorexics withhold, creating intentional pain for their spouse and themselves. They withhold, withdraw, and push away to stay disconnected. This is a soul in pain. Whatever the reason, the addiction to withholding from their spouse is real, powerful, and cunning—like all other addictions.
That Our Lives. Our lives can be many things. It can be our physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual life. If you look at all the parts of our lives, they wouldn’t equal the totality of our lives. Our lives are the very core of us. It is the inner part of us that identifies us as being separate from another person. This is what has been affected as we look at our intimacy anorexia. This is the part that feels disconnected, alone, confused, and isolated when needs are not being met. It is this part of us that allows us to admit something very important.