Most people hope and pray that our children will grow up and find future spouses who will be kind and affirming. Our feelings toward our child’s spouse are based upon whether he or she is willfully neglectful or consistently loving and kind toward our loved one.
God is also a father, and He is the father of your spouse. He loves and values your spouse so much that He died for him or her. Now, how do you think God would feel toward you if He knew (and He does) that you were willfully neglecting to nurture and affirm His child—your spouse?
This perspective gives the situation a new twist—at least it does for me. I don’t nurture or celebrate Lisa, my wife, based upon how good she is to me or her mood for the day. I base my actions upon who she is to God.
My heavenly Father loves it when I love and nurture Lisa, even when she is in a less-than-wonderful mood. I am responsible to God to nurture her for His sake, not hers. So as you learn the skills you can become a great nurturer. It is a skill that anyone can learn.