The original Twelve-Steps were written many years ago for Alcoholics Anonymous. These alcoholics, after some period of sobriety, decided to write down the principles and the steps they took to maintain their sobriety and to live a healthier life. These principles and steps have been used throughout the world to help millions of people with various addictions such as narcotic abuse, overeating, emotional problems, co-dependency, and sexual addiction. If you study the history of Alcoholics Anonymous, you”ll find a lot of prayer was involved. Let’s walk through how impact Step One truly is.

Step One: “We admitted we were powerless over our sexual addiction, and that our lives had become unmanageable.”

I am so glad that the first word in the first step is “we.” I would hate to think I was the only person who ever went through this. Addiction is an international as well as national problem. “We” means that we have similar experiences and we are alike. We grew up in the same family, though thousands of miles apart. We had the same kinds of abuses and neglects. We is a comforting word in this step. You can see that you are not alone and don’t have to be alone. You can get better if you decide to get together. Without each other, we often fail to recover. 

When asked how to pray, Jesus said "Our Father." Jesus understood the need for us to have a corporate vision rather than an individual perspective of God. When the apostle Paul wrote the "One Anothers" (Gal. 5:13, Col. 3:12-13), he understood the need that believers have for each another. Jesus’ brother James also understood this when he penned James 5:16, "Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed."

There is healing and spiritual power available as you follow the "we" principle in your life. This is especially true as you take the journey through recovery from sex addiction and intimacy anorexia.

If you are wanting a support group to help you walk out the Twelve Steps e-mail us at heart2heart@xc.org for the latest group and telephone group schedule!