Unfortunately, pain will eventually begin to impact the marriage. This pain was either created within the marriage due to infidelity or another betrayal or is due to issues one or both the individuals didn’t deal with prior to the marriage.
Let’s quickly touch upon the matter about repairing past issues. Such issues can consist of family of origin stuff, prior romantic/sexual relationships, abortion, alcohol, drug or pornography addictions. These issues can contribute to how honest or mature you can be in your marriage. The following biblical illustration expresses how important God thought it was to heal before marriage.
Genesis 2:20-21: “But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So, the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh.”
After God anesthetized Adam, performed surgery, he “closed up” Adam or healed him. God did not want Adam’s marriage, or any marriage for that matter, to be based on one person’s pain. Our pain, regardless of what it was from our past, is ours to allow God to heal. If you didn’t work on your past pain before marriage, then attack these issues as soon as possible.