Every human being has a need to connect. I believe that everyone is born with a need to touch and be touched. Many sexual addicts act out sexually as a primary way of being satiated inside. It is through this altered state and false nurturing that the addict feels like he or she is connected. This can be very confusing for the sex addict in recovery since experiences of acting out in the past have all been a way to connect through his sexual addiction. This need to connect can move the addict into the addiction cycle if he doesn’t find other ways to enjoy the true way of meeting the need to connect. I have found that when sexual addicts feel this need to connect, they also feel pain because they don’t know how to get this relationship need met. The addict is faced with the pressure to act out in order to make the pain go away.