The paradigms of your mother and father’s marriage can be the most influential paradigms you bring to the wedding day. The consistent exposure to your parent’s ideas about marriage is the “sauce” you were daily marinated in for at least two decades.
This marinating can soak deep into the soul and can put you in a place that you never even question the ideas or paradigms. The belief is what empowers these paradigms and is why you behave in the way you do in your marriage.
Not all marinating is bad. You might have seen raw courage, faith, and discipline in your parent’s marriage. However, even in a strong marriage one, two or three paradigms can exist that you need to expose, challenge or even change to accommodate your marriage. Your marriage has bonded two beings from different paradigms, some of which might not be the best for your marriage.
Be thoughtful to evaluate your paradigms and the fruit of these paradigms and challenges. Look carefully at what you need to change and grow to be an awesome lover-spouse.