Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Except When To Do So Would Injure Them or Others. When you get to this point, you may become confused when you attempt to decide if making amends will injure the person involved, or be detrimental to other, possibly innocent people. Such confusion is best resolved with the assistance of a group, sponsor or therapist. Confusion is not to be used, however, as an excuse to not make any amends because you don’t want to experience the pain or shame of admitting your past behavior.
What you must consider, when admitting past behavior is whether or not your confession would significantly damage the other person involved. In this case, you should not raise the issue to them. You can ask yourself, “Would this be damaging?” If you have a question, do not assume you have the answer. You could very possibly avoid an amend which could restore a relationship, or hold on to an amend that will set you up for old behavior. Go over your list with a sponsor, support group or therapist if at all possible.