When an intimacy anorexic finds themselves acting in, withholding, pushing away, doesn’t follow their sexual agreement and doesn’t do The Three Dailies but has a set of consequences and does them quickly, without complaining then this is also a positive sign. However, if they won’t do them, and continues to sulk or whine, that’s not a positive direction. If they refuse to do their recovery work then they are actively in their addiction mode and nobody can tell them what to do. In recovery we call this King or Queen Baby. Take a few minutes and honestly assess your own behavior.