Humbling ourselves is often one of the most challenging yet essential steps in the journey of recovery from sex addiction. It might look like attending a meeting where you don’t fully agree with someone else’s theology or perspective—but choosing to listen anyway. It might mean learning from someone who has more sobriety than you, even if they’re younger or come from a different background. Humility takes many forms, and it is a vital part of healing and growth.
I never would have imagined, thirty+ years ago, when God first began speaking to me about sexual addiction—long before books, support groups, or resources were readily available—that He would lay the foundation for my recovery. The basics He gave me, I followed, even though it meant humbling myself in ways that were deeply uncomfortable and painful.
One of the hardest parts was confessing my struggle to a pastor and a roommate—opening up about my sexual addiction and admitting my brokenness. That vulnerability was terrifying, but it was also the doorway to freedom. I had no idea then that, years later, God would open doors for me to share my testimony internationally and help others understand what truly works in recovery.
Humility is not a sign of weakness; it is a pathway to strength and restoration. I encourage you to embrace humility—not as a crushing burden but as a powerful act of courage. When you humble yourself, you take the least painful path toward transformation because you open your heart to learning, growth, and connection.
Recovery is not about having all the answers or being perfect. It’s about being willing to lower your defenses, listen with an open heart, and walk alongside others on this journey. Humility allows grace to enter and healing to begin.
So, if you’re struggling, remember: humbling yourself is the beginning of true freedom. It’s the step that opens the door to the life God wants for you—a life of hope, recovery, and renewal.