Steo One: "We admitted that we were powerless over our intimacy anorexia and that our lives had become unmanageable."
Step One, you place your feet on the path to recovery. “We” means that you will have others involved with you in your recovery. Recovery is a team participation sport. “We admitted” is not all of Step One. Some people attend meetings and never do a full Step One. They just admit that they are an intimacy anorexic much like the alcoholic who admits he is an alcoholic, while drinking a beer.
As an intimacy anorexic, you are admitting that you are powerless over the withholding or acting in behavior toward your spouse. You are powerless to stop withholding; with help, you can place your foot on the accelerator to initiate intimacy with your spouse. When you see an opportunity to withhold from your spouse, choose not to take it. Instead, love your spouse. That would be accepting you’re powerless against the anorexia.