The fact that the man described in this passage fell for her lies says it all. He didn’t follow God’s principles or wisdom. He followed her. Our naive man has now made himself a victim of the seductress; it will cost him his life. Many men have wept in my office from the pain they suffered after awakening from the fog of their lustful encounter with a willing seductress.
The writer of the Proverbs gives us another lengthy passage that warns of this kind of pain and destruction. He also gives insight into the attitudes and rebellion that motivate the man who becomes her victim.
Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house, Lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man’s house. At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent. You will say, “How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or listen to my instructors. I have come to the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly. -Proverbs 5:8-14
The men I’ve counseled who have committed adultery all confirm to the truth of this scripture. Inevitably they testify to the loss of their wealth and their toil to enrich another man as they describe the devastating outcome of their decisions.
This can easily happen in a divorce where your assets go into child support and alimony—and your ex-wife’s new husband’s boats and cars—all paid for with your money.
The enemy’s plan is to use the seductress to strip you of your destiny, your wife and your role as the father of your children. Christian men have somehow been lulled into a stupor sexually. The false sense of men’s sexual entitlement that motivates them to engage in pornography, masturbation and other behavior leaves them easy prey for the seductress.
Take heed to these scriptures, guard your heart and your life from the seductress; she is death. Her intent is to kill what you love, leave you and then move on to another victim. Remember that many are the victims she has brought down, which means you’re not as special as she would make you think. She is bent on massive spiritual, social and financial destruction.
You can totally escape her by loving God, pursuing wisdom and living a life based upon principles rather than seeking immediate pleasure. Again, let me warn you that when you see any female displaying the signs we discussed, run from her.