She is loud and defiant, her feet never stay at home; now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks. -Proverbs 7:11-12
The behavior and attitudes of a seductress are clearly described here. This woman does whatever she pleases; she is not submissive but “loud and defiant.” This may not be obvious to you when you first meet her. Though she may appear demure, maybe even quiet and spiritual at first, her inward rebellion will reveal itself as you develop into a relationship with her. She likes to be about town so to speak. She will not show interest in responsible activities of a virtuous woman to make a home or raise children with.
I like the way the writer describes her locale: “at every corner she lurks.” I think this was included to help men be aware that this type of woman does exist in your community. Don’t be fooled into thinking you live in Mayberry. The seductress is a reality in every locale and needs to be guarded against. Men in ministry, this is crucial! The strongest of Christians could be fooled into believing in her, including other women! This is even more true as women and men misrepresent themselves on social media and dating apps.
She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said: -Proverbs 7:13
The seductress readily reveals her crafty intent; she is not afraid to initiate the next step. Put a modern face on this situation. You’re flirting with a coworker and you find yourself alone with her. She grabs and kisses you. This is the edge of the hook that goes into a man’s spirit, soul and body. All of a sudden, your brain turns off and your body ignites.
Sexually the seductress is confident. She intuitively understands what prostitutes know: All men want to be wanted. She knows that as a man your deepest longing is to feel desired by a woman sexually. That’s why she talks with a “brazen” or shameless face. She knows what she’s doing. She has studied victims like you before.
It’s even harder for you if your marriage is less than wonderful. When your wife sincerely says she desires you, that hole in your heart is filled so completely that no other woman’s voice can be anything but distasteful. You become especially vulnerable to the seductress if you are not feeling wanted in your marriage. If your marriage is an issue, start with any of our marriage books or talk to a pastor or counselor to heal your marriage. These materials will strengthen your marriage so that if you meet a seductress, you will be able to withstand her craftiness.